Hello everyone, time flies… It’s May already and May is BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER awareness month, so we are going to talk about it because us with hypothyroidism experience changes in our mental state, might not be BPD but we understand mental health is important. So, let’s begin with the follow question, What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental disorder marked by a pattern of ongoing instability in moods, behavior, self-image, and functioning. These experiences often result in impulsive actions and unstable relationships. A person with BPD may experience intense episodes of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last from only a few hours to days.
Some people with BPD also have high rates of co-occurring mental disorders, such as mood disorders, anxiety disorders, and eating disorders, along with substance abuse, self-harm, suicidal thinking and behaviors, and suicide.
While mental health experts now generally agree that the label “borderline personality disorder” is very misleading, a more accurate term does not exist yet.
As you read above BPD is a serious mental disorder, unfortunately nowadays it is surrounded by the bad representation of the hollywood stigma, such as the character Tiffany Maxwell in Silver Linings Playbook, in the movie her diagnosis is never mentioned but it’s well known she suffers from BPD, she’s refered as to “an impulsive angry wh*re” who slept with a bunch of people after her husband died and while some of the characteristics of BPD is impulsiveness and mood swings, not everyone engage in abuse substance or sex abuse, like any other disease, it depends on the personality of each individual, it’s like in the case of us hypothyroids, not all of us experience the same symptoms nor act the same way, same goes for Borderlines.
The hollywood stigma paints them as unloveable people who cannot love anyone, but that’s not the case, I personally have a few borderline friends and while they might test your patience at times, they are also great people with good hearts who wants to be loved. They fear abandonment like we all do, but they struggle to feel worthy of love as they don’t have a clear sense of who they are (most of them) so they push you away, this is also called “Splitting” as borderline, there is a very good book that sumarizes this “I hate you don’t leave me” by the authors Hal Straus and Jerold Jay Kreisman.
Here’s a list of symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder as stated by NIHM:
People with BPD may experience extreme mood swings and can display uncertainty about who they are. As a result, their interests and values can change rapidly.
Other symptoms include
- Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
- A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often swinging from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
- Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self
- Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
- Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
- Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
- Chronic feelings of emptiness
- Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
- Having stress-related paranoid thoughts
- Having severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality
Some of these signs and symptoms may be experienced by people with other mental health problems—and even by people without mental illness—and do not necessarily mean that they have BPD. It is important that a qualified and licensed mental health professional conduct a thorough assessment to determine whether or not a diagnosis of BPD or other mental disorder is warranted, and to help guide treatment options when appropriate.
So as you read above, these people already deal with a bunch of issues on their own, they’re constantly fighting a battle, just like we hypothyroid deal with a bunch of issues too. The next time you wanna refer to a borderline as “Crazy” “reckless” or any other bad term, REMEMBER THEY ARE PEOPLE, THEY HAVE EMOTIONS AND THEY’RE ARE SUPER SENSITIVE, so be careful with your words. Don’t judge a book by its cover.
And most important, NEVER DEFINE A PERSON BY THEIR STRUGGLES, because we are so much more than that.
If you have a friend, family member or a partner who is or might suffer from borderline personality disorder, please be kind and patient with their emotions, when you get to know them you realize how amazing they can be.